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Friday, 19 March 2010

Dating Denial

This will allow you to make romantic choices for all the right reasons next time around so that you don't waste time with a boyfriend who is not for you (and don't end up breaking some poor guy's heart). The most common reasons for being with a guy you're not that into, are :

SERIAL SINGLEDOM
When you meet him it had been way too long since you'd had a relationship and you were starting to feel embarrassed, ashamed and totally unlovable. So at first having your new boyfriend shower you with all the attention made you feel important and desirable again - until you realised he really wasn't Mr Right.

TAKING A CHANCE
You've always dated a certain kind of guy and never ended up truly happy. So this time you thought you'd give this guy a chance just in case going against your usual type could make you happy (and sadly, it didn't).

AVOIDING VULNERABILITY
If you've had your heart broken a few times, it can seem much safer to be with a guy who likes you way more than you like him. That way you feel you have more power in the relationship and don't fear that you will risk being hurt again because you're in control.

EGO BOOST
OK, so you knew he wasn't right from the beginning, but after a couple of dates, your ego overtook your doubts and you were soooooo flattered by how much he was into you, that you let go of reality for a while and bathed in the glow of his adoration.

LETTING HIM CHOOSE YOU
From the beginning he kind of swept you along in his enthusiasm but your feelings never matched his. Still it's not like any other guy was in the wings making you an offer to go out, so you thought you'd enjoy the ride, which now has gone on too long.

Thursday, 11 March 2010

Currently
Sawaku: Music of Sarawak
By Various Artists
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Back to my roots

Somewhere near my 'Rumah Panjai-BETONG' in early 90's...

Despite being a globe trekker and frequent flyer (I fly around in a Boeing almost everyday in a week), I haven't forgotten my roots. I still go back the island of Borneo in the Sarawak, a state in Malaysia. I then will detox off all my foreigness and reabsorb all the cultural stuffs. I would visit the villages where my relatives are still living. I will walk around barefooted in my sarong, hair all scrunched up in a messy bun. I will step in boats where roads ends, and the rivers are the only route to reach certain places. I will play the traditional instruments, dance the native dance and sing the folk songs. I go from the trendy girl to the native girl, as I prance around with the feathers and the spears and the shields.

Friday, 05 March 2010

Kiss And Tell

Saw angel_vow's blog and got so turned on. Gosh...oh wow. I like the photo so much, I wish I'm the one who is kissing him. LOL

Speaking of kissing... time for kiss and tell, darlings.

I'm a kisser. I like showing my affection for someone in a kiss. I could kiss a man on a first date. I could kiss a girl when I'm drunk. I like kissing!

I know all kind of techniques, and to tell you the truth, Spanish men are the best kisser (nudging Man@Mancouch).

Want to see me in action? Observe!

He was alone by the pool side, the poor dear.
I flirted with him and brought him out of his lonely shell....

... and I score!! Wheeeeeeee!!

Saturday, 27 February 2010

To be young and in love

I look so happy on my 7th birthday. Oh, the innocence of youth....

Sometimes I forgot how it feels like to be young again. I can get so jaded with life and the routines of 'mothering' all the passengers during flights. My duties demand me to ensure that both adults and children are comfortable during the duration of the flight. I have to keep my behavior in check and behave like a mature adult. And it's so draining after the end of the day.

That is the reason why I find blogging so liberating. I can be childlike and bitchy online. I don't confine myself to rigid rules and regulations. I follow my heart, allow myself to speak out and freely express my emotions. I can't do all that while I'm on active duty.

My airline discourage relationship between the cabin and flight crew. They want us to remain focus on tasks at hand for the sake of the passengers' safety. They don't want conflicting couples on their flights. The pilots and first officers must learn to stay scandal free and detached while flying the airplane. The cabin crew must never show affection for each other. Existing couples are given conflicting schedules to avoid being in the same flight. All these only make it harder for me to develop any lasting relationship with the male members of my airline. And that is the reason why I am here in Datingish : to learn about love and relationship. I don't come here to find dates, but to learn more about relationship, and develop my empathy for others.

I am tired of being a rigid, matrony flight attendant. I want to feel young... loved again.